"I may have small feet, but they're a great fit in my mouth."

     My wonderful friend Jennifer (whom I have only seen four times in my entire life and speak to only every few months) once told me that everyone needs to have their say...even if it hurts.  That through prayer and keeping the Spirit with us we learn how to express our feelings constructively. That this kind of communication is more important than anything to maintaining relationships.  I have had more truth thrown at me the last few weeks than I care to face and have dished out my share as well. 
     I have come to realize that what hurts worse than the truth is the remorse and pain of not knowing (and than finally learning) how people truly feel about our actions towards them.  The pain of having those we love stewing over what we said, did, or didn't do feels more destructive than an atomic bomb. BOOM...there goes the planet (and relationships) when what is felt finally surfaces.
    I found the most wonderful article that helped me to realize that once **** hits the fan, there is a great way to deal with it.  I think I often skip the S step, thinking I can make it better if I "explain" EYE-ROLL...guess what...when you keep talking you keep adding to the oops. 

"S - A - M

Stop
Stop talking. Even if you're mid-sentence.

Admit
Admit your mistake. "I put my foot in it. I didn't mean to offend..." You'll know the words that work for you.

Move On
Move on. You've apologized. It was an accident. It's up to them how they choose to respond and you dwelling on it will only make things worse."

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To add to this wonderful article I also have learned that it is just as important for us to use the SAM when we have been hurt. "Oh wait friend, did you mean to say...That kinda hurt my feelings" if the person says, "yeah I did mean to say it you idiot." Well...then....that sucks....