I have been thinking much about roles of men and woman, roles of the priesthood, and talents/strong points of individual people.
When I was first married it seemed as though I made all family decisions. Matt seemed content to sit back and let me handle things as I saw fit. At first it was flattering that he saw me as so capable, but then as the years progressed I saw it as a burdened that was never shared. I have been praying about this as Matt and I continue to struggle with roles in the family. He is so wonderful. He has no problem doing family prayer, study, and family home evening as long as I am the one to plan and execute them. I found myself becoming angry and feeling unappreciated. Wasn't he supposed to be the "head" of the family? Isn't HE the priesthood leader and responsible for the spiritual growth of our family? If so then why am I the one who seems to be the one who works for it.
I have come to a great realization through much prayer and my wonderful friends who love and support me. This is what I have seemed to learn.
1. Women are natural leaders. In general we strive for goodness in our lives no matter how hard the work. Many of us are organized and can multi-task like no other.
2. God might have said that men are to lead, but that does not mean every man will be born to lead. My darling sweetheart is one of those men. He feels deeply, loves deeply, but is a creature of habit and once in the swing of things would definitely fly.
3. I don't believe men leave things to us intentionally. I am not sure they always KNOW what must be done, and if we always do it then they don't learn the habit of doing things.
I realize now that I was born with a gift to lead. I have often seen this as a curse and unfair instead of a gift. My Lord has given me a wonderful, sensitive, God fearing husband who benefits from my leadership. As I pray I continue to look for positive ways to help Matt become the leader that I know he can be. Perhaps it is not his inability to lead that has had me so angry...perhaps it is my inability to let him, mistakes and all.
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Very insightful! I think you are right - I also think that for most men it takes time to "see" through their wives help how to lead the family in righteousness. Sister Lant gave a talk in the last GC (April 2008)that talks about righteous traditions and making them meaningful - it something you have to do together, maybe that would help to read together! I have to give a talk about it this Sunday that is why it is on my mind. Good luck - I know you can do it!
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