Where you tend a rose a thistle cannot grow right? So, I keep telling myself to see the positive. I am ready to return to the temple the Bishop told me I was 2 weeks ago and to come back in 2 weeks for my recommend.
I went to his office, no prayer, no "how are you doing Sister Mobley" nothing...
All he said was, "I have talked to your husband and YOU are in charge of the finances in your home, and YOU are not paying a full tithe, YOU need to get on the same page as your husband and come back in 6 months." I tried to explain to him that Yes it take care of all expenses in our home such as the budget. And written at the TOP of the budget the first thing that is taken out of the money is tithe, but that I had told my husband that it was his responsibility to pay tithing as it is his increase and I do everything else. I was extremely frustrated and began crying. Bishop told me that he knew that I was disappointed but that Matt and I needed to be on the same page about this and to come back in 6 months! There was no comfort from him. No, "hey I am so proud that you and Matt are doing so well, no... I am so glad that in all other areas you are ready, and how exciting it will be in six months." Nothing, all I heard was that here was one more way I "messed up" as a wife and not only had I messed up my spiritual growth but Matt's as well...
SIX MONTHS....I felt like throwing up...how can I go six more months without the temple???
I asked the bishop some questions about tithing, stating that this is one of those areas that Matt and I disagree on. I feel that HE should pay it as it is his money and HE thinks I should pay it because I pay the bills...LOL... The bishop was in a hurry and didn't seem to really talk to me. Then he said, "you are right sister mobley, it is his money and if you want your recommend I will give it to you." I felt like more than anything the Bishop just wanted me out of his office.
I began to cry and said no (Bishop was rather surprised about this)...He didn't want to talk to me because he was in a hurry, but I knew the Lord loved me so I sat and listened for the small voice.
Matt and I are partners, we laugh together, cry together and we are together forever. The spirit whispered to me that there was no, "his job or my job"...and that even tho I felt unloved by the Bishop, he WAS called of God and he was right. Matt and I needed to be "on the same page" about EVERYTHING and if we couldn't decided on who was going to do what, we would do it together. I talked it over with Matt and although he too was heartbroken, he agreed on what the Lord needed us to do.
So with a deep breaths and a grateful hearts TOGETHER we wait the 6 months...
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Desi sent me your link, so glad you started a blog! I love blogs!
Sorry, things are rough, but October will be here in NO time!! And when the day comes I will gladly babysit Kale so you can attend the temple together!!!
Liz :)
Six months goes quickly! It is worth everything it takes to make it to the Temple. You are NOT alone in any of your challenges, you have a wonderful husband who loves you, friends who care, and a very loving and understanding Heavenly Father. We all have rough days, including bishops, and the important thing is what we make of those days and times. I'm so proud of you and Matt for putting in the work that it takes to make a marriage succesful and happy!
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